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Enemies of You

Everybody’s Prejudiced

Including the Man Who Wrote This

I will put mine on the table before I ask about yours

That’s the deal. The only way this book earns the right to say what it’s going to say is if the person writing it goes first.

I prefer women doctors. Women bankers. Women in customer service. Given equivalent credentials I lean toward the woman almost every time, and I’ve done this for most of my adult life. I’ve justified it ways: more thorough, more attentive, more patient with difficult people.

Maybe that holds as a pattern across my own experience. What I have never done is examine whether my experience proves what I think it proves, or whether I’m giving a flattering name to something that works the same way any other bias works. The name I give it’s informed preference. The accurate name is prejudice. I own it.

I start there because it’s the most flattering thing I’m about to tell you, and flattering is a good place to start. The rest is less comfortable.

What is inside Everybody’s Prejudiced?

The five parts of Everybody’s Prejudiced
Part Title Chapters
One How It Gets In Installed before you can question it, the wiring of tribalism, small cruelties, culture and religion, inherited stories
Two What It Looks Like Race, gender, religion, class, age, disability
Three How It Survives How prejudice survives; DEI, good intentions, and what works
Four The Full Count Sexual orientation and gender identity, the body, unnamed prejudices, what trauma builds
Five What Rational People Do Contact, the veterans holding the line, the only prejudice I can defend, Claudia

Who should read Everybody’s Prejudiced?

Why did I write Everybody’s Prejudiced?

Richard Lowe, the Writing King

I go first in this book, at some cost, because a book on this subject written by somebody claiming to stand outside it would be worthless. Thirty-three years in corporate America gave me plenty to examine, in hiring rooms and elsewhere.

► Behind the Book: Everybody’s Prejudiced
How this one got written, what went wrong, and what got cut.

► The Only Open Seat Was Next to a Black Kid. His Name Was Sam.
One story from behind this book.

What do people ask about Everybody’s Prejudiced?

Isn’t a white man the wrong person to write a book about prejudice?
Lowe addresses that directly in the book’s opening. Prejudice is often framed as something white people observe in others or hold against others, never something aimed at them. That framing is part of what the book argues against. White people, men, Christians, working-class people, the old, the disabled, and veterans all experience prejudice, the same mechanism operating in every direction. Writing the book required someone willing to go first with their own biases before asking anyone else to examine theirs. He qualified on every count.
Is Everybody’s Prejudiced a left-wing or right-wing book?
Neither. It’s deliberately agenda-free. The book applies the same standard to prejudice regardless of who holds it or who it’s aimed at. That means it’ll frustrate anyone looking for a tidy political team to root for. It examines race, gender, religion, class, age, and disability with the same lens, and it treats DEI as something that got parts right and parts wrong, not as a cause to defend or attack.
Is Richard Lowe a sociologist or psychologist?
No, and he says so plainly. He’s not an academic of any kind. The qualification he claims is sixty-plus years of observation, watching how prejudice works in real rooms with real people, from multiple directions, as both the person holding it and the person it was aimed at. Where he cites research, the research is real and represented accurately. Where he’s stating an opinion, he tells you it’s an opinion.
Does Everybody’s Prejudiced offer anything practical, or just analysis?
The final section is entirely about what rational people do to reduce prejudice, in themselves and in the rooms they walk into. It covers contact, holding the line, and the slow work of changing a mind starting with your own. The book says this work is unglamorous and the mechanism never fully goes away, but prejudice can be reduced by people who understand what they’re dealing with.

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Everybody’s prejudiced

The useful question is which of yours you have never looked at.

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Introduction

Everybody’s Prejudiced

Let me save you the trouble of wondering where I’m coming from. I’m going to put my own prejudices on the table before I ask you to examine yours. That’s the deal. The only way this book earns the right to say what it’s going to say is if the person writing it goes first.

This book was written by a Christian white man. I want to address that directly, because prejudice is often portrayed as something white people observe in others, study from a distance, or experience only as the people who hold it instead of the people it’s aimed at. That framing is wrong, and it’s part of what this book is arguing against.

White people experience prejudice. Men experience prejudice. Christians experience prejudice. Working-class people experience prejudice. Old people experience prejudice. People with disabilities experience prejudice. Veterans experience prejudice. The same process works in every direction. Pretending otherwise doesn’t make it untrue. It just makes it invisible to the people who most need to see it.

I’m writing this book because I’ve experienced prejudice from multiple directions, held prejudice in multiple directions, and spent decades watching the same mechanism produce harm regardless of which way it was pointed. I wanted to write an honest book about that, agenda-free, applying the same standard no matter who held the bias or who it was aimed at. That required someone willing to go first with their own prejudices before asking anyone else to examine theirs. I qualified on every count.

One more thing. I’m not a sociologist, a psychologist, a researcher, or an academic of any kind. I’m a person. I have the same brain producing the same automatic judgments that every other person has. I’ve lived inside the same mess everyone else is living inside. The research in this book is real, and I’ve tried to represent it accurately. But the engine of the book isn’t research. It’s observation, sixty-plus years of watching how this works in actual rooms with actual people.

That’s the only qualification I’m claiming. It turns out to be enough.

I want to address that directly, because prejudice is often portrayed as something white people observe in others, study from a distance, or experience only as the people who hold it instead of the people it’s aimed at. That framing is wrong, and it’s part of what this book is arguing against.

White people experience prejudice. Men experience prejudice. Christians experience prejudice. Working-class people experience prejudice. Old people experience prejudice. People with disabilities experience prejudice. Veterans experience prejudice. The same process operates in every direction.

Table of contents

Everybody’s Prejudiced

  • A Note on the Author
  • Introduction: I’ll Go First
  • Part One: How It Gets In
  • Chapter 1: Installed Before You Can Question It
  • Chapter 2: The Wiring – Tribalism, the Brain, and Why This Never Goes Away
  • Chapter 3: Small Cruelties
  • Chapter 4: Culture, Religion, and the Air You Breathe
  • Chapter 5: The Stories We Were Handed
  • Part Two: What It Looks Like
  • Chapter 6: Race
  • Chapter 7: Gender
  • Chapter 8: Religion
  • Chapter 9: Class
  • Chapter 10: Age
  • Chapter 11: Disability
  • Part Three: How It Survives
  • Chapter 12: How Prejudice Survives
  • Chapter 13: DEI, Good Intentions, and What Actually Works
  • Part Four: The Full Count
  • Chapter 14: Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity
  • Chapter 15: The Body
  • Chapter 16: The Prejudices Nobody Names
  • Chapter 17: From the Inside, and From the Side
  • Chapter 18: What Trauma Builds
  • Chapter 19: When the Mechanism Runs Free
  • Part Five: What Rational People Do
  • Chapter 20: Contact
  • Chapter 21: The Veterans – Holding the Line
  • Chapter 22: The Only Prejudice I Can Defend
  • Chapter 23: Claudia
  • Epilogue: The Only Prejudice That Makes Sense
  • Notes and Sources
  • About This Series
  • Enemies of You Series
  • Index
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