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What If I Want to Meet My Ghostwriter in Person and They Refuse?

This entry is part 146 of 146 in the series Ghostwriting
TL;DR: Most ghostwriting now runs over video, and many ghostwriters don’t travel, or charge for it when they do. That isn’t a bad sign. Recorded video interviews work well for most books, and they let you hire the best ghostwriter for your book instead of the nearest one. If meeting in person matters to you, say so up front, offer to cover travel, suggest one in-person kickoff with the rest by video, or hire a local ghostwriter.

More of my work lately comes from clients within driving distance, and they come to me. We usually meet first over a meal at the Safety Harbor Resort and Spa. Once the working sessions start, we move to the library almost next door, because libraries are far quieter than restaurants, and I record those sessions on a tablet.

A surprising number of people don’t like Zoom, and that’s fine. We meet in person or talk by phone. Phone calls are recorded too, and the contract says so. Clients understand. It’s not the recordings they’re afraid of. It’s being a face on a screen while they tell a stranger their life story, and that’s a reasonable thing to feel.

Do ghostwriters meet clients in person?

Some do, and many don’t. Most ghostwriting interviews now happen over video calls. That shift started before 2020 and accelerated sharply after, and it’s become the normal way to work for clients and ghostwriters alike.

I do, for clients close enough to drive, as I described at the top.

Local ghostwriters are more likely to offer in-person sessions to nearby clients. Ghostwriters who work nationally or internationally mostly work by video and meet in person only for special cases, such as a kickoff, a client who can’t use video, or a book that requires seeing a place.

Why won’t my ghostwriter meet me in person?

For practical reasons that have nothing to do with you.

Travel takes days out of a ghostwriter’s schedule for a few hours of interviews. Those days come out of other clients’ books. Travel costs money that someone has to pay. Video recordings are clean, easy to transcribe and simple to revisit, while in-person recordings in restaurants and living rooms can be noisy. Video also makes shorter, more frequent sessions practical. Memory works better that way than in marathon days.

Some ghostwriters also have personal reasons, such as health, family or a preference for focused work at home. None of those make them worse at the job.

Are video ghostwriting interviews as good as in-person interviews?

For most books, yes. What makes an interview good is the questions, the listening and the trust between two people, and all three travel well over video.

Video has real advantages. You’re at home, comfortable, with your photos and papers within reach. Sessions can be an hour at a time instead of whole exhausting days. Recordings are clear. Scheduling is easier, so interviews happen more often and the book moves faster.

In-person has advantages too. Some people open up more easily face to face, especially older clients or anyone uneasy with technology. Seeing a place, like a factory floor, a family farm or a neighborhood, can add detail no conversation captures. For those books, some in-person time is worth the cost.

Can I pay my ghostwriter to travel to me?

Yes, and many ghostwriters who don’t normally travel will agree when the client covers the costs. Expect to pay for travel, lodging and meals, and for the ghostwriter’s travel time if they charge for it, since it takes days away from other work.

The most efficient version is a single in-person kickoff: a day or two together at the start to build trust, see the places that matter and record the first interviews, followed by video for the rest. You get the handshake and the relationship, and the rest of the project runs at video speed.

Should I hire a local ghostwriter so we can meet in person?

Only if in-person meetings matter more to you than finding the best fit. Location is one factor among many. Voice, experience with your kind of book, process and chemistry matter more to how your book turns out.

If you find a local ghostwriter who’s also a great fit, that’s ideal. If the best fit lives across the country, a video relationship with a great writer will produce a better book than in-person sessions with a mediocre one. My article on how to hire a ghostwriter covers what matters most in choosing.

What if I’m not comfortable with video calls?

Say so. It’s more common than people admit, especially among older memoir clients, and it’s easy to work around.

A family member can set up the calls, as the rancher’s granddaughter did. Phone interviews work well for many people and record just as clearly. Some ghostwriters send questions in advance so you can think before each call. And a single in-person visit at the start can make video feel much less strange afterward, because you’ve already met the person on the screen.

How do I build trust with a ghostwriter I’ve never met?

The same way you’d build it with anyone: through the first few conversations and the way they treat what you tell them. Trust comes from being listened to, from seeing your words come back accurately in a draft, and from a writer who keeps their promises about schedule and confidentiality.

Start with a longer first session that covers your whole life or career in broad strokes, so the ghostwriter knows the shape of the story before digging in. Share something mildly personal early and notice how it’s handled. Read the first chapter closely. By the time the hard material comes up, you’ll know whether you trust this person, and a screen won’t have much to do with it. My article on trusting your ghostwriter with what you tell them goes deeper.

How do I work with a ghostwriter who’s in another city?

The same way you’d work with a local one, with a calendar. Agree on a regular interview schedule, the same day and time each week if possible. Find a quiet, comfortable spot with good light and sound. Keep your documents and photos nearby. Test the technology once before the first real session, so the first interview isn’t spent fixing a microphone.

Time zones matter a little. Ask about them up front and find a slot that works for both of you. After that, distance mostly disappears.

What should you do if meeting in person matters to you?

Say so on the first call. Ask whether the ghostwriter meets locally, whether they’ll travel, and what travel would cost. Consider one in-person kickoff with video or phone after that. And choose your ghostwriter for fit first, since a great writer on the phone produces a better book than a mediocre one across the table.

If you’re in the area, my Safety Harbor, Clearwater and Tampa pages explain how local clients work with me. If you’re farther away, my remote ghostwriting page covers the rest. Wherever you are, my ghostwriting services work the same way.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can I meet my ghostwriter face to face?
Many ghostwriters will meet in person if you’re local or cover travel. Ask about it up front. A single in-person kickoff followed by video works well.
Do most ghostwriters work remotely?
Yes. Most ghostwriting interviews now happen over video calls, so clients can hire the best fit regardless of location.
Who pays for a ghostwriter’s travel?
The client, in almost every case. Expect to cover travel, lodging and meals, plus travel time if the ghostwriter charges for it.
Will my book be worse if my ghostwriter and I only meet on Zoom?
No. Good questions, careful listening and trust work well over video, and recordings are clearer. Some place-heavy books benefit from one in-person visit.
Can I do ghostwriting interviews by phone?
Yes. Phone interviews record clearly and work well for clients who don’t like video. Ask your ghostwriter whether they offer them.
Should I choose a ghostwriter based on location?
Only as a tiebreaker. Voice, experience with your kind of book, process and chemistry matter far more to the result.
How do I find a ghostwriter near me?
Search for ghostwriters in your city or region, and ask whether they offer in-person sessions. Then judge them on fit first.

About the Author
Richard Lowe, professional ghostwriter

Richard Lowe is a professional ghostwriter and author with 113+ books authored and 54+ ghostwritten. Before writing full time he spent 33 years in enterprise technology, including 20 years as Director of Computer Operations and Technical Services at Trader Joe's. He writes nonfiction, fiction and memoir, and works with executives and experts on books that build authority.

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Disclaimer

The views and opinions expressed in this blog post are solely those of Richard Lowe and are based on personal experience and research. This content is for informational purposes only and should not be construed as professional legal, financial, accounting, or business advice. Always consult with qualified professionals before making important business or legal decisions. Richard Lowe is not a lawyer, accountant, or licensed professional advisor, and this content does not establish any professional relationship.

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