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Photoshoots

TL;DR: Photoshoots used to be among the hardest things in my life, because I was painfully shy. The camera became the tool that let me emerge: it gave me a role, a reason to talk to people, and a way around the 90-foot concrete wall I had built to protect myself. This is how the shoots got easier and what they gave me.

Photoshoots are among the most difficult things I’ve ever had to confront in my life. I know that sounds odd, since I’m a photographer and I do a lot of shoots these days, but at the beginning it all seemed so difficult, so hard that for the longest time I felt like I’d never be good at it.

The shy photographer

I found shoots difficult because I was painfully extraordinarily shy and introverted. For those of you who didn’t know me from years before, it may be difficult to picture me as shy, but I assure you it’s true. A major reason I ventured into the world of photography was the camera helped me emerge from my shell, get out from behind my force fields, and get around the 90 foot thick concrete wall that I built to protect myself from the rest of humanity.

This all came to mind because I was having a conversation with a friend of mine who, as part of her job, had to take part as a model in a shoot recently. For her this wasn’t a good experience. The photographer was arrogant, treated her harshly and pushed her around.

For this lady, it wasn’t the correct approach to getting good shots. The very business-like, harsh approach might work for experienced models, but even then, I suspect this guy wouldn’t ever get great pictures. My friend came away hating the photographer and remembering it all as one of the worst experiences of her life.

What models need

Something many photographers miss, and this is what made it so difficult for me, is their subjects, their models, are human beings and photographers need to treat them that way. A shoot, especially for an inexperienced model, is going to bring out all of the negative feelings that a person has about herself. She’s going to magnify every flaw, every blemish a thousand percent; she’s going to exaggerate every bit of nervousness; and she’s going to interpret every slight movement or comment by the photographer in the worst possible way.

So what I found as I ventured into the world of photography, was the best way to get the absolute best staged photos was to work with the model, to, for a few minutes, become friends with that person. It’s the little things like smiling at her as soon as you see her, introducing yourself, giving her a sincere compliment, ask her how she’s doing and so on, that help to relax her, put her at ease, and allow her to pull herself together and give her best for the shoot.

For the inexperienced model, it’s a good idea to coach now and then; for the experienced model, it’s best to get that out of the way and just let her know what you want. Too much coaching will just annoy a model who has been trained and done this time after time. But I don’t worry about it too much; I’ve found those models who have that experience either make it obvious, or they have no problem telling you they don’t need so much special care.

But for the model who has little to no experience, explaining, briefly, why you want her to sit a certain way, helping her relax and showing now and then what kind of shot you want goes a long way.

Coaching a model by experience
Situation What Richard does
Inexperienced model Coach now and then, briefly explain poses, show the kind of shot wanted
Experienced model Skip most coaching and just say what you want
Model looks puzzled or hesitates Explain why you want the pose
Any model, any shoot Always acknowledge her so she doesn’t wonder if she’s doing something wrong

Getting the model comfortable

I think the most important task at the beginning is to get the model to relax.

This doesn’t need to take a lot of time. A simple, quick conversation about what you’re trying to achieve and what you expect might be all that’s needed. A few words of encouragement is always good, and even a short conversation about her and her experience (or lack thereof) can help.

So I might tell my model that I’m trying to create a very sensual look, accentuating the natural curves of her body with the camera and the poses I ask her to get into.

As I ask her to get into poses, I might briefly tell her why I’m asking her to stand that way or put her arm in that position. And always, always, always acknowledge her. If you just shoot without acknowledging, she’ll start to wonder if she’s doing something wrong, and that will, believe me, show up in the picture. It’s very simple.

“Please push your left hip out, yes, but a little more. A bit more. That’s it! Perfect. Very sensual.”

After you take a few pictures, thank her, then move on. If she looks a little puzzled or hesitates when asked to do something, that’s the time to explain.

Tell her you want her hip swung out a bit because it makes a nice feminine curve which looks good in a picture. Once you take a few pictures, show her what it looks like.

Getting a model comfortable on a shootThe sequence Richard uses to relax a model and get her best work. He starts with friendly basics, explains the look he wants, directs poses with brief reasons, and acknowledges every adjustment. After a few frames he thanks her, moves on, and shows her the result.Getting a model comfortable on a shoot1Greet her warmlySmile, introduce yourself, give asincere compliment2Explain the goalA quick talk about the look you'reafter3Direct the poseBriefly say why you want thatposition4Acknowledge herAlways, so she knows she's doing itright5Thank and move onAfter a few pictures, thank her6Show the resultLet her see what the pose looks like
Getting a model comfortable on a shootThe sequence Richard uses to relax a model and get her best work. He starts with friendly basics, explains the look he wants, directs poses with brief reasons, and acknowledges every adjustment. After a few frames he thanks her, moves on, and shows her the result.Getting a model comfortable on a shoot1Greet her warmlySmile, introduce yourself, give a sincerecompliment2Explain the goalA quick talk about the look you're after3Direct the poseBriefly say why you want that position4Acknowledge herAlways, so she knows she's doing it right5Thank and move onAfter a few pictures, thank her6Show the resultLet her see what the pose looks like

Friendly basics, a clear goal and constant acknowledgment relax a model faster than harsh direction.

I’m learning more and more about how to do a good shoot every day. It gets more complicated when you add additional models, a backdrop, motion, the complexities of the camera, lighting, and hundreds of other variables. And since my preferred shoot is out in the world, usually in a public place, there’s the added complexities and randomness that life produces such as other people and things that show in the background.

A shoot I loved was a “women with guns” shoot in a junkyard. There were about 30 models and 50 photographers, and we spent the whole day in that junkyard posing the models, who’d brought lots of costumes. It was freaking hot, and we didn’t care. Funny thing is, I’ve never fired a gun. I’ve only held them.

One other thing I’ve learned: for both photographers and models, take a few classes. It won’t hurt to have the knowledge. But by far the best way to become good at this is to go out into the world and do shoots. Experience is the best teacher. Some lessons you only need once. I was trying to photograph a hornet nest and poked it with a stick. That was a mistake, and I ran really fast.

Frequently Asked Questions

Why were photoshoots hard for Richard Lowe?
Because I was painfully, extraordinarily shy. Directing a model requires talking to a person, holding their attention, and being seen. That was everything I’d spent a lifetime avoiding.
How do you help an inexperienced model?
Coach constantly and acknowledge everything. Explain the mood you want, give simple concrete directions, and tell her when she nails it. A model who knows what you’re trying to create stops guessing and starts performing.
Can photography help with shyness?
Yes. It gave me a way out of my shell. The camera gave me a role and a reason to engage, and it worked around the 90-foot concrete wall better than anything else ever had.

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