Don’t Live in Fear
The Walls You Built and How to Get Past Them
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I lost a job I wanted because I was too chicken to talk to people BUY FROM INGRAMSPARKAMAZONKOBOREAD A CHAPTERTABLE OF CONTENTS 178 pages · Paperback ISBN 978-1-972810-75-0 · ebook ISBN 978-1-972810-76-7 |
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I lost a job I wanted because I was too chicken to talk to people
Let me say it again, because by the end of that chapter it is about you, not me. I had the skills. I had the experience. I ran the entire technical department at a store you would recognize if I named it, and I am not naming it.
The top job opened. CIO. On paper I was the obvious pick. They gave it to somebody else. Somebody who talked to people.
Everybody in that building knew my work and not one of them knew me. No allies. Nobody in the room going to bat for me when it counted, because I had never bothered to make a single one. The promotion goes to the person people know. They knew my code. That was nobody’s fault but mine.
I am an introvert, not a hermit. Get me talking and I am fine. It is the walking up to somebody that kills me, and every time I backed off I felt relief and called that relief good judgment. It was not judgment. It was a wall, and I laid every brick myself.
What is inside Don’t Live in Fear?
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The walls
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Work
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People
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Doing it
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Who should read Don’t Live in Fear?
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Worth your time if
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Not for you if
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Why did I write Don’t Live in Fear?
Richard Lowe, the Writing King
I lost the CIO job to somebody who talked to people, after twenty years running technology at a company you would recognize. Thirty-three years in enterprise IT and I built every wall in this book personally, then spent the years afterward taking them down. None of this is theoretical and none of it is flattering.
► Behind the Book: Don’t Live in Fear
How this one got written, what went wrong, and what got cut.
► I Spent Thirty-Three Years in a Box and Called It a Career
One story from behind this book.
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The relief you feel when you back off is the wall
It has never once been good judgment.
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Don’t Live in Fear
I lost a job I wanted because I was too chicken to talk to people.
Let me say that again so it sinks in, because by the end of this chapter it’s going to be about you, not me.
I had the skills. I had the experience. I ran the whole technical department at a store you’d recognize if I named it, and I’m not naming it, so quit guessing.
The top job opened up. CIO. I was the obvious pick on paper.
They gave it to somebody else. Somebody who talked to people.
Why? Because everybody in that building knew my work and not one of them knew me. No allies.
Nobody in the room going to bat for me when it counted, because I’d never bothered to make a single one.
The promotion goes to the person people know. They knew my code. They didn’t know me.
Look at the wall that did it, because you’ve got one just like it.
Table of contents
Don’t Live in Fear
- Why I Wrote This
- Everybody Lives in a Box
- The Cave Is Empty
- Quit the Damn Job Already
- You’re Worth More Than You Ask For
- Stop Marrying Your Fear
- The Quiet You’re Afraid Of
- Nobody’s Watching You
- Three Men at the Same Fence
- Get Off the Couch
- Say the Thing
- You Could Leave Tomorrow
- Walk Out of the Bad Movie
- Pick a Door
- It’s Not Too Late, You’re Just Scared
- Why Are You Afraid to Win?
- When You Can’t Get Out
- Four Walls, One Loose Brick
- When Someone Else Holds the Wall
- Chains That Bind
- Is It Faith, or Is It Fear?
- The Morning After You Get Out
- You Can’t Drag Anyone Out
- The Wall With Your Name On It