AuDHD at 64: Why Being Wired Differently Makes Me a Better Ghostwriter

TL;DR: At 64, after writing over 113+ books and a career in technology, I found out I am autistic and have ADHD, and probably always have. I had spent my whole life thinking something was fundamentally wrong with me the ghostwriting hub. It turns out the same wiring that made small talk and neat processes impossible is what makes me a better ghostwriter: deep focus, pattern recognition, and the ability to disappear into someone else’s story until it is done.

I recently found out something shocking.

“You’re autistic. And you have ADHD. Probably always have.”

I was 64 years old. I’d written over 113+ books. Built a career in technology. Spent 20 years as Director of Computer Operations at Trader Joe’s how I work with authors. Raised a family. Survived three major earthquakes, four hurricanes, and a wildfire that surrounded my car with flames.

And I’d spent all of it thinking something was fundamentally wrong with me.

The List of Things I Couldn’t Do

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I couldn’t network at conferences. The small talk felt like performing in a language I’d memorized but never understood.

I couldn’t write in neat, scheduled blocks. Some days nothing. Other days, an entire book in a single sitting.

I couldn’t explain why certain sounds made me want to crawl out of my skin, why I noticed patterns nobody else saw, why I’d hyperfocus for 16 hours and forget to eat.

For decades, I kept a running list of my failures. All the ways I didn’t fit. All the things that came easily to everyone else but took everything I had.

The diagnosis didn’t change who I am. It changed the story I told about who I am.

I wasn’t broken. I was running a different operating system.

You can find more about my story in my childhood memoir My Life In Crazytown.

What This Has to Do With Your Book

I’m a ghostwriter for executives. CEOs, founders, people who’ve built something significant and want to capture it before the details fade.

Most of my clients share something: they don’t fit the mold either.

Their successes came through unconventional paths. The advice that worked for everyone else didn’t work for them. They zigged when the market said zag. They trusted instincts they couldn’t explain.

Now they want to write a book about it. But every ghostwriter they’ve talked to wants to sand off the weird parts. Make it more “accessible.” Follow a proven formula.

I don’t do that.

The weird parts ARE the book. The things that made you different are exactly what readers need to hear.

The Myth of the Polished Executive Memoir

Most ghostwriters produce a sanitized, LinkedIn-friendly version of your life. Challenges that resolved cleanly. Lessons that arrive on schedule. A narrative arc borrowed from the last 50 business books.

Professional. Forgettable. Sits on shelves unread.

The books that matter are messier. They include failures that didn’t teach convenient lessons. Decisions that still don’t make sense. The parts of yourself you’ve never shown in a boardroom.

I spent 64 years hiding the parts of me that didn’t fit. Masking. Compensating. Performing normalcy.

Exhausting. And it made me invisible.

When I finally stopped hiding, when I started writing and speaking about my real experience, something shifted. People leaned in. They recognized themselves. They said “I thought I was the only one.”

Your book can do that. But only if you stop polishing away the parts that make you human.

Why I Work Differently as a Ghostwriter

My brain doesn’t do small talk. It does deep dives.

When I interview clients, we don’t stay on the surface. We go to the moments that shaped everything. The decisions that still keep you up at night. The things you’ve never told anyone because you weren’t sure they’d understand.

I understand.

I’ve spent a lifetime learning to see patterns other people miss. To hear what’s underneath the words. I tell that story in the AuADHD superpower. To recognize the difference between the story you’ve been telling and the story that’s true. how I work with authors

That’s not a skill I learned. It’s how my brain is wired. For most of my life, I thought it was a liability. Turns out it’s what makes me good at this work.

The 12-Hour Interview

My first ghostwriting client was an Afghani politician who’d helped build his country’s roads. Then the regime changed overnight and he had to run.

Twelve hours of interviews. His wife translating his life story while he relived it. Moments where he’d stop mid-sentence, overwhelmed by memories he hadn’t visited in years.

That project taught me what ghostwriting is. Not writing someone else’s words. Holding space for their truth and finding the structure that lets it breathe.

Most people have never been listened to like that. They’ve been interrupted, advised, redirected. They’ve learned to keep the complicated parts private.

I don’t interrupt. I don’t advise. I don’t redirect.

I listen until the real story surfaces. Then I write it.

What Your Executive Memoir Could Be

You didn’t build what you built by following someone else’s playbook.

Your book shouldn’t follow one either.

The executive who bootstrapped a company from a garage, who almost went bankrupt twice, who fired their best friend to save the business. That story has teeth.

The founder who built something revolutionary while managing a chronic illness nobody knew about. Who made decisions from hospital rooms. Who kept going when stopping made more sense. That story changes lives.

The leader who got the diagnosis late, whatever that diagnosis was. Who suddenly understood why everything had always been harder. Who had to rewrite their own story before they could write it for anyone else.

That’s the book only you can write. The world needs it more than another polished success narrative.

How Working With a Ghostwriter Works

I take on a small number of clients each year. The process starts with a conversation to see if we’re a fit.

No pitch. No pressure. Just two people talking about whether your story is ready to be told.

If we work together, you’ll get my full attention. Deep interviews that surface the real material. A manuscript that sounds like you, not like a ghostwriter trying to sound like you. A book that makes readers feel less alone.

My clients’ books have helped secure over $30 million in venture capital. They’ve become textbooks at Purdue. They’ve preserved legacies for families who almost lost them.

But the metric I care about most is simpler: does this book tell the truth?

Schedule a Conversation – no obligation, just a conversation about your story.

Richard Lowe is a professional ghostwriter with 113+ books, from executive memoirs for Fortune 50 leaders to legacy projects for founders. He discovered he is AuDHD at 64, which explained everything.

Frequently Asked Questions

How does being AuDHD help with ghostwriting?
Hyperfocus lets me immerse completely in a client’s material and write for long uninterrupted stretches. Pattern recognition helps me find the structure inside a messy life story. The same traits that made conventional office life hard are well suited to deep, voice-driven writing work.
Were you diagnosed late in life?
Yes, at 64, after decades of assuming something was simply wrong with me. The diagnosis reframed a lifetime of difficulties as a different kind of wiring with real strengths attached, including the ones that serve the writing.
Does this affect how you work with clients?
Mostly for the better. I bring intense focus to the interviews and the drafting. The process is built around capturing your voice in concentrated sessions, which fits how my attention actually works rather than fighting it.


📝 Disclaimer

The views and opinions expressed in this blog post are solely those of Richard Lowe and are based on personal experience and research. This content is for informational purposes only and should not be construed as professional legal, financial, accounting, or business advice. Always consult with qualified professionals before making important business or legal decisions. Richard Lowe is not a lawyer, accountant, or licensed professional advisor, and this content does not establish any professional relationship.

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