Veterans Day and the Stories That Deserve to Be Told
Veterans Day is a time to remember, honor, and celebrate the sacrifices made by those who served. One of the most lasting ways to honor a veteran is to capture their story before it is lost. Veterans carry experiences most of us can only imagine, from deployments in hostile environments to the friendships formed under fire, and many of those stories go untold. Writing provides a way to preserve these narratives so that future generations can understand what their service actually looked like.
My first ghostwriting project was a veteran’s story. It was personal: my grandfather, a WWII veteran.
My Grandfather’s Story
Before the war, my grandfather had been a ship’s cook in the U.S. Navy, stationed in China. His life took a harrowing turn when he became a prisoner of war, marched through Manila and held in captivity for years. The family had always said it was the Bataan Death March, but when I wrote his memoir from his actual journals, the real story emerged. That was one of the first lessons ghostwriting taught me: family hearsay is not the same as the veteran’s account. Primary sources matter. The family knew him as gruff and standoffish. Writing his story changed how I understood him.
As I worked through his journals and memories, I realized how much he had endured and how much of that endurance had shaped the man the family knew. The gruffness was not personality. It was scar tissue. Writing his story was not just an act of honor. It was an act of understanding. It taught me that ghostwriting is not about putting words on a page. It is about doing justice to someone’s life and legacy.
That project opened my eyes to the significance of preserving veterans’ stories and set the direction for the rest of my career. By writing about my grandfather, I ensured that his legacy would continue, that my children and their children would know what he survived and who he was before, during, and after the war. His memoir, Behind the Wire, is available to read.
What I Learned Hiring Veterans at Trader Joe’s
When I managed teams at Trader Joe’s, I regularly hired veterans, particularly those from the Marines or Special Forces. Their reliability was unmatched. They showed up on time, completed tasks efficiently, and brought a level of discipline and teamwork that elevated everyone around them. Veterans do not just bring skills to a workplace. They bring values: integrity, loyalty, and commitment.
Each veteran had their own story, carried quietly. For some it was combat. For others it was resilience in the face of hardship. But each one enriched our team in ways that went beyond their job description. Through those years, I gained a deeper respect for what military service produces in a person and became more committed to the idea that these stories deserve to be preserved.
Why Veterans’ Stories Go Untold
Many veterans, especially those from older generations, hesitate to share their experiences. Some see it as boasting. Some feel that civilians will not understand. Some simply do not want to revisit what happened. The result is that critical stories, the kind that connect families to their own history and connect all of us to the real cost of the freedoms we take for granted, disappear when the veteran dies.
Ghostwriting offers a way around that resistance. The veteran does not have to sit down and write. They talk. A skilled ghostwriter conducts interviews, asks questions that draw out the material, and handles the writing. The veteran’s job is to remember and to speak honestly. The ghostwriter’s job is to listen, organize, and produce a manuscript that sounds like the veteran telling their own story.
As Stephen Ambrose said, “I strongly believe that writing is an act of courage.” For veterans, having their story written can be exactly that: a courageous step toward sharing memories that may be painful but that deserve a place in the record.
How to Approach a Veteran’s Story
The interview process for a veteran’s memoir requires particular care. Veterans may hesitate to discuss their experiences, and the ghostwriter has to earn trust before the real stories emerge.
Start with open-ended questions that give the veteran control. “What was your proudest moment during your service?” or “What do you wish civilians understood about military life?” These questions open doors without forcing anyone through them.
Be patient. Some of the most important material surfaces in the second or third interview, after the veteran has decided you are someone they can trust with their story. Do not rush. Do not push. Give them space and show that you are there to listen without judgment.
Focus on small moments as much as large ones. The daily routines, the friendships, the humor that provided relief during difficult times. These details make a memoir feel lived-in rather than like a history textbook. A reader does not need to understand every military operation. They need to understand what it felt like to be there.
Include historical context where it serves the story. Dates, locations, and the broader military situation help readers understand the scope of what the veteran experienced. But the context should frame the personal story, not replace it.
Preserve the veteran’s voice. Capture their way of speaking, the phrases they use, their rhythm. A veteran’s memoir should sound like them, not like a writer who interviewed them.
The Therapeutic Value of Telling the Story
Writing is not only valuable for readers. For many veterans, the process of telling their story provides a form of closure. Research on expressive writing has shown that putting difficult experiences into words can reduce stress, anxiety, and symptoms of PTSD.
Organizations like the Veterans Writing Project, a nonprofit founded by veteran Ron Capps, provide no-cost writing workshops for veterans, service members, and their families. They publish the literary journal O-Dark-Thirty and have facilitated expressive writing programs at the Department of Defense’s National Intrepid Center of Excellence for PTSD and TBI treatment.
The act of telling the story, whether through writing it themselves or working with a ghostwriter, allows veterans to reclaim their narrative. For some, it is the first time they have spoken about certain experiences. For others, it is a chance to organize memories that have been fragmented for decades. Either way, the process has value beyond the finished book.
Veterans Day Is About More Than One Day
Veterans Day is a chance to reflect on the true cost of the freedoms we live with every day. It is a day to remember not just those who served, but the families who waited, the communities that supported them, and the generations shaped by their sacrifices.
But honoring veterans should not be limited to November. Preserving their stories is something that can happen any time, and the sooner it happens, the better. Veterans are aging. Memories fade. The window for capturing firsthand accounts of Korea, Vietnam, and even the Gulf War is closing.
If there is a veteran in your life whose story has not been told, consider what it would mean to preserve it. Whether you sit down with a recorder, write it yourself, or work with a professional, every veteran’s story deserves to be heard.
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