The Subtle Toxic Boss

The Subtle Toxic Boss

Beware the toxic boss (or client). This is a lesson I’ve learned over and over throughout my life. Yet, still, after a long career, I still am amazed to find myself working for one.

It’s easy when they are obviously toxic.

But the more subtle ones, well, they are the boss’s that drive people crazy.

You know what I mean?

What I found is I’d finish a conversation with the person angry, but without quite knowing why.

I felt tired all the time.

I had to kick myself hard to do the work.

And sometimes, just wondering why I mentally felt I’d just walked out of a knife fight.

I started to dissect every conversation—and that’s fruitless. It’s not obvious.

I began to wonder if I had health problems.

Sometimes, I even questioned my own sanity.

I lost motivation, finding it difficult to do everything I needed to do in life.

Then, in one conversation, I realized what was happening. You know, an aha moment. The lightbulb going off over my head.

Unfortunately, I waited a few weeks. One of the effects of being near a toxic person is indecision.

But, for the sake of my sanity, I quit.

Within minutes, I felt very good. Like a huge weight had been lifted from my shoulders.

Life seemed easier all of a sudden.

My energy came back.

Health concerns disappeared as if by magic.

Opportunities appeared as if out of nowhere.

Most important of all, I stopped doubting myself and second guessing everything.

A toxic person in your immediate environment can ruin your whole life.

Toxicity hits you right in the soul.

I know this from experience.

I think the saying from Dune, “Fear is the mind killer” is wrong.

“Toxic people, especially those with some authority over you, are the mind killers.”

What have been your experiences with toxic boss’s or clients? Please share them in the comments below.

Richard Lowe

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