03 Aug 2023

Introvert or Extrovert: 3 Powerful Secrets to Discovering You

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Are you an introvert or extrovert?

Personally, I’ve been an introvert most of my life. By introvert I mean that being in crowds of people drains my energy. For an extrovert, crowds revitalize them.

For most of my life, I preferred to remain in my own space, my apartment, writing, working on hobbies, reading, and watching movies.

I wasn’t afraid to go outside. I simply preferred my own space.

I didn’t go to any parties in high school or college and skipped most work-related events if at all possible.

I have no idea how an extrovert can be so social.

Learning to be an Introvert or Extrovert

Within a year of getting married, my wife’s asthma kicked in. She refused to stop smoking, developed COPD, and, later, required daily IV injections to keep her alive.

This really pushed me hard into introversion. I had to deal with a demanding job, a very sick wife, and all the usual other family crises and events.

Then, 12 1/2 years after we were married, my wife passed away.

My wife’s death really pushed me deep into introversion – and painful shyness.

Deciding to Become More Extroverted

I decided to fix that.

So, after I’d photographed all the national and state parks in the SW US, I started going to renaissance festivals.

I took my camera along and started taking thousands of pictures of everyone. Over a thousand a day (my maximum was 5,430 in one day).

I began to use the camera as a way to talk to people. I could confront a camera, and I used it to help me confront people.

The renaissance faire groups accepted me as one of their own. It was exactly what I needed at the time.

I began photographing the belly dancers at the festivals, but soon became one of the most well-known belly dance photographers in Southern California. I went to over 1,200 shows and events just to photograph the dancers.

What does that have to do with becoming a writer and ghostwriter (yes, I know that didn’t transition well)?

I began to learn how to compose scenes in the camera, and, many years later, that helped me compose scenes in writing.

I learned about backgrounds and foregrounds and small details that make or break the picture. The same applies to writing both fiction and nonfiction.

We’ll continue my story tomorrow and meet an astounding person who changed my life – Marjhani BellaMorte

So, are you an introvert or an extrovert? I want to hear more about your story. Please tell me more in the comments below.

Unveiling Yourself: 3 Key Insights

Self-discovery is an ongoing voyage, transcending labels like “introvert or extrovert.” Delving deeper into oneself demands more than just self-reflection; it requires actionable strategies. Here are three pivotal steps to unravel your unique essence:

Nurture Curious Self-Reflection: Introspection is key, but how you introspect matters. Dive into your feelings and thoughts with an inquisitive mind. This unbiased exploration, over time, can unveil your genuine inclinations, joys, and triggers.
Value External Insights, Yet Trust Yourself: Friends and family can shed light on facets of you that might be obscured. However, everyone has their own interpretation. Value their perspectives, but always weigh them against your own understanding. You remain the most authentic judge of your character.
Venture Beyond the Familiar: Real self-awareness often comes from unfamiliar terrains. New hobbies, destinations, or even slight routine shifts can be eye-opening. Such ventures can reveal your adaptability, likes, and dislikes in unexpected ways.

In essence, while terms like “introvert or extrovert” give a basic framework, genuine self-understanding requires depth. By fostering curiosity, balancing feedback, and embracing novelty, you inch closer to unveiling your authentic self, brimming with untapped potential.

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Richard Lowe

Owner & Senior Writer at The Writing King

Richard is the Owner and Senior Writer for The Writing King, a bestselling author, and ghostwriter. He's written and published 63 books, ghostwritten 48+ books, as well as hundreds of blog articles.